First Christmas in new place without him

It truly hit me today that this year will be the first in my new place and without him to celebrate with me.

I’ve always loved Christmas. Give me The muppets before Christmas and chocolates and a blanket. But see even the thought about starting to decorate my new place and make it festive. It makes me sad and I know I should be thankful that I have a new place and that I get to decorate it what ever I want for Christmas but even that doesn’t make me happy and that is life.

I would so love to start the new memories of the festive period / new traditions etc but it just doesn’t feel right.

Seeing my flat at the min and then going around the shops I can’t imagin any of it in my flat.

Maybe the tradition of not doing anything will be my way forward.

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